Finding Our Way Back to Love · The Library

Where to Send Readers

In twenty-nine of the eighty-six articles, Wendy tells the reader to get help. Not one of them says who to call.

This is already in the writing

These are Wendy's own words, unchanged. The instruction is there. Only the phone number is missing.

“Seek immediate help if you are experiencing self-harm, suicidal thoughts or the belief that life is no longer worth living.”
Life After Loss
“If active abuse, coercion or violence is present, prioritise specialist support and safety planning. Ordinary relationship work may be unsafe.”
Can This Relationship Heal
“If the relationship involves violence, coercion, intimidation, stalking or serious control, ordinary communication strategies may not make it safer. Confrontation can increase danger. Seek specialist support and prioritise a safety plan.”
Creating a Safe Relationship
“If guilt is contributing to severe depression, self-harm, suicidal thoughts or an inability to function, seek immediate professional or crisis support.”
Working With Guilt

A reader who has just been told to seek immediate help, and who is holding a PDF at two in the morning, has nowhere to go. The page below is the answer to the instruction Wendy has already given them.

What the library actually names

Counted across all eighty-six articles.

8suicide
18self‑harm
50abuse
49violence
13stalking
111coercive control

Sixty-three of the eighty-six articles name at least one of these. Nineteen name suicide or self-harm directly.

The support page

Ten services, limited to suicide, self-harm, abuse and violence. Every number read from the service's own website on 27 August 2026, twice, independently.

ServiceCallAlsoHoursWho it is for
Triple Zero000SMS Relay 0423 677 76724 hoursImmediate danger, or immediate risk of suicide. Police, fire, ambulance.
Lifeline13 11 14Text 0477 13 11 14
Chat lifeline.org.au
24 hoursAnyone in distress, in crisis, or having thoughts of suicide. Right for every reader whatever brought them here.
Suicide Call Back Service1300 659 467Chat and video, 15+24 hoursThinking about suicide, worried about someone else, or grieving someone lost to suicide.
13YARN13 92 76Phone only24 hoursAboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people, supported by Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Crisis Supporters.
1800RESPECT1800 737 732Text 0458 737 732
Chat and video call
24 hoursDomestic, family and sexual violence, including coercive control and stalking by a partner, family member or ex.
Full Stop Australia1800 385 578Online counselling24 hoursTrauma specialist counselling for anyone affected by sexual, domestic or family violence, and those supporting them.
Rainbow Helpline1800 497 212Run by Full Stop Australia24 hoursLGBTQ+ people experiencing sexual, domestic or family violence.
Men's Referral Service1300 766 491Run by No to Violence24 hoursMen who have used violence or controlling behaviour and want to change.
Kids Helpline1800 55 1800Chat kidshelpline.com.au24 hoursAnyone aged 5 to 25, on any issue. For a young person in the reader's life, not for the reader.
Blue Knot Helpline1300 657 380Press 1 for the Helpline9am to 5pm, 7 daysAdults affected by complex trauma from childhood abuse or neglect, and their partners, family and friends. Not 24 hours. Outside these hours, Lifeline.
Two things that must not change in setting

1800RESPECT's call number and its text number share their last six digits. They are labelled Call and Text and must never sit adjacent on one line, because dialling the text number does not reach a counsellor.

Blue Knot is the only line here that closes. It is grouped separately and carries an explicit fallback to Lifeline, so a reader at two in the morning is never handed a number that will not answer.

Where it appears

Twenty-nine of eighty-six. The page is not printed in articles that do not raise these subjects.

Names suicide or self-harm · 19

  • Changing What You Do
  • Denial
  • Emotional Avoidance
  • Grief
  • Habit, Coping Mechanism or Addiction
  • Healing Loneliness
  • How to Identify and Meet Your Needs
  • How to Respond to Emotion
  • Learning to Need Without Losing Yourself
  • Letting Go of a Coping Mechanism
  • Life After Loss
  • Making Space for Sadness
  • Sadness
  • The Cost of Coping
  • The Many Faces of Addiction
  • Turning Towards What Hurts
  • Understanding and Changing Your Addiction Cycle
  • Understanding Coping
  • Working With Guilt

Heavy abuse, violence or coercion · 10

  • Can This Relationship Heal
  • Creating a Safe Relationship
  • Creating Emotional Safety
  • Finding the Courage to Have Difficult Conversations
  • Safety in Relationships
  • Releasing Hatred Without Denying the Harm
  • The Practice of Repair
  • We All Make Mistakes in Relationships
  • Why We Become So Afraid of Conflict
  • Working With Anger

Deliberately left out

Alcohol and other drugs, gambling, general men's counselling, LGBTIQ+ peer support and the Medicare navigation line. All real services, none of them what this library is about. A long list is a list nobody in distress reads.

Numbers verified 27 August 2026 against each service's own website, in two independent passes. No number was taken from a directory or from memory.
Helpline hours and providers change. Re-check before any reprint, and re-date this page when you do.